Motivational Monday: Top 10 Lessons I've learned in the 2010's

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I just wanted to jump on for the last motivational Monday of the decade. 2019 was a year for the books! It was crazy for me. I'm guessing it was crazy for some of you as well.

This was the best and worst year of my life. SO many wonderful things happened. I know there's no happiness without sorrow. I embraced the value of both this year. 

So I took the time to self reflect and thought I'd share with you some of the lessons that had the most impact on me, in hopes that it will encourage and uplift you as well.

So let's dive into the top 10 lessons of the last decade!

2010: Getting to know and love yourself changes your life.

By 2010, I had been single for nearly a year. In that year, I got to know myself. I got to figure out who and what I was... I got to figure out what I wanted to do with my life.

Once that happened, my world started to change. I started to attract the type of relationships that lifted me higher. I started to hope more for my future and the future of my children. It's never too late to become the person that YOU want to be for YOURSELF. 

2011: Be careful what you wish for...

In 2011, I learned that you can want something with all your heart. Once you get it, you realize that was not what you needed at all. Be pointed about what you put out into the universe. You just might get it.

2012: You still have so much to learn about yourself.

2012 was my year of physical change. I began to love the skin that I was in and as such, I started my return to natural hair. That return was not easy. When you don't even know the natural texture of your hair or how to take care of it, you learn that there are so many things that society has piled on top of you. 

It was the year of shedding societal norms and standards.

2013: Just do it already.

This was the year I took the leap and started my business journey. In 2013 the resources and groups, etc. that are readily available now were not a luxury for me. I made countless mistakes because I was learning as I grew. I learned some valuable lessons about business, marketing and about what authentic support entails. 

I'm still learning but I know a hell of a lot more today than I knew January 12th, 2013. That's the founding date of B Ayesha Inc. Can't believe I'm rolling up on seven years.

2014: Pain changes you.

This was the year that I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. This was the year of my downward spiral into depression and suicide attempts. This was the year I lost myself. Chronic pain changes a person. It changes your entire life. You have to deal with the fact that you'll never be the same.

2015: Time to stand on your own.

This was the year that the pain from 2014 became a hinderance in my work in corporate America. This was the year I decided to resign from my job and stand solely on my own. It's scary to leave something that you've done for so long to jump into entrepreneurship full time. But guess what, I did it and so can you.

2016: Travel

2016 was the year I started traveling on a whim. Just because I could. There were so many excuses why I couldn't travel or why I shouldn't travel.

Life is short. Don't spend your entire life in a tunnel of simply working and existing. That's not a life at all. We were born to live. We are not inanimate objects. 

This was the year I was never home. I was flying all over the country serving the communities, speaking and just having a great time with great people. My whole outlook changed.

2017: Even when you mean well, you can still hurt people.

Whoo chiiiilllleeeee! 2017 was a year of self reflection. I had to evaluate the way I moved in certain spaces and I also had to evaluate the way I allowed myself to be treated.

Even when you have the best intentions... Even when you love someone... You can still hurt the hell out of them. When someone tell you that you've hurt them, you don't get to tell them how to respond or how long it will take to recover. 

Don't ever invalidate someone's feelings. Even if I don't understand it or agree with it, I've learned to acknowledge that, no matter my intentions, I have hurt people. I've also been hurt under the same circumstances.

2018: Clarity

I'd like to think that I spent 2018 figuring out that I'll never have it all figured out. I can't control everything. I had to learn to start going with the flow. Let things happen how they're going to happen and be okay with the outcome. No matter the outcome.

I went through so many emotions in 2018. My life had soooo many twists and turns and to be honest, I didn't think I would make it through some of them. The moment of clarity comes when you can look back and see all that you went though and see how much stronger you came out on the other side.

2018 was a year of lessons learned. I'm thankful.

2019: You can be your happiest and saddest at the same time.

2019 started off AMAZING. I got engaged in February. Eloped in May. Bought a House in July. Moved to Florida in July. My relationship was the best it has ever been... 

BOOM! My Mom was diagnosed with colon cancer again. Other major family issues started happening. I was the happiest and the saddest at the same time. It sounds impossible but it's clearly not. LOL! 

The support system that I have in place from my Husband to my Besties, were essential. We are not an island. I know that may sound cliche' but... Listen... You can't go this thing called life alone. You just cannot do it. If you're one of those people that are constantly talking about who they're cutting off. If you're a woman who always says they can't get along with other women. Look... Start self reflecting. No matter how wonderful you think your life is going, there is nothing on earth like have a close friend in which you can confide. A friend that gives you SOUND advice. A friend who has your back no matter what... 

When I was my happiest and saddest, in duality, my support system is what pulled me through.

So what do you guys think? What lessons did you learn the last decade? Drop your questions and/or comments below!

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Until Next Time! Stay Beautiful!



  1. What a great article. Thank you for sharing your journey. You're absolutely right about having the a support system. That is essential otherwise life can be hard on your own. ~April


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