Dear Results...


HAPPY NEW YEAR BAYE HIVE!!!!!! So yeah, like I was telling you in the previous post- complete and utter strangers come up to me and tell me their deepest, darkest secrets. It never fails, LOL! As to keep all parties anonymous keep that in mind when sending in your note for "Ask Results Johnson" 🤗 

Here goes it....

Dear Results, 

You know the saying "if you go looking for something, you'll find it"? ... well yeah...I found something alright... 

My boyfriend had been acting really strange and my gut was telling me that he was cheating on me. We've been together for 5 years now. No children, but we live together and have been for the past 3 years. I'm not the type to violate anyone's privacy, but I had this nagging urge to go thru his text messages. I just wanted to "see" something....

Well, was I NEVER prepared for what I saw!!! To make a long story short, I found out that he was cheating on me alright, but I wasn't prepared for the "who" he was cheating on me with. As for me, any risky activity gets deleted as if it never existed. So,  I'm scrolling thru reading random texts and one thread stood out more than the others. It was a name I didn't know, and that prompted me to dig a little further. Well honey.... was I in for a big surprise.

"I enjoy kissing your soft lips". 🤔 huh? The name was a males name...My boyfriend of 5 years indeed WAS cheating on me... with another MAN!!! I forgot to mention that I'm a woman. I cracked his screen by mistake after dropping the phone in horror!!! Don't get me wrong, whatever anyone's sexual preference is their business. My issue is that I didn't sign up for this. I've invested sooooooo much time, patience and love into our relationship. What a slap in the face, not only was he cheating on me- but with a man? The same lips that kiss my mouth have done who knows what...I know I might sound crazy, even after all of this I still love "our" man and I don't know what to do. Please help me Results, I don't know what to do. 

Sincerely, 
"He's in love with another man"

Dear "He's in love with another man",

Whew Chile! That's a LOT to go digging for and find honey! Big hugs to you for keeping it together as best you can! 

In all seriousness, I would make an appointment to make sure all is well down under. You won't really know how long this has been going on and it's better to be safe than sorry. It sounds like your boyfriend may need some counseling. Considering you possibly weren't raised with him, there may be some underlying secrets or things that happened to him that may have triggered this confusion. Having him speak to a therapist would be the best option. Having YOU speak to a therapist also, so that the healing process can begin. It sounds like you aren't through with him and there may be a chance at rekindling the flame. Open dialogue will help you both heal also. Typically, when someone cheats it's because they don't feel their voice is being heard. There's no telling HOW long this would've gone on  had you not turned into Inspector Gadget but as the saying goes "when you look for **** you find ****" (no pun intended, pinky promise LOL)! I hope that in time you all can work something out and possibly stay together. Keep me posted on your progress beloved!

With highest regard, 
Results Johnson 

BAye Hive, that was something else huh?! Keep your letters coming and I'll answer them in the order in which they are received. AskResultsJohnson@gmail.com 

Thanks for reading and I'll catch you next week. Be great!!!


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  1. Wow that was great advice for both but just wow! Ooo wee!

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